Parental Expectation vs. Your Expectation (College/Education)

Parents will always want the best for their children. That is a known fact. 

Parents will always worry about how will you support yourself later in life, what makes you happy, are you getting enough nutrition, etc...

Our education is a major part of our lives. Parents could start preparing their fetus for college or even decide what schools their children will go to in the future. Once we all get to college/university...the question will be 'What do you want to do with your life?'.

Some people know that in one second while others are still deciding. It is hard to know what you want to do in life when you are only 18. You just became an legal adult! Now all the pressure is coming down upon you. Soon, you will have to choose a major that will give you a certain path down in life. 

While certain kids will instantly choose pre-med, pre-law, business, etc...you might feel overwhelmed with the daunting choices that might have an affect on you in the future. It's alright! Use your first two years of college/university to find yourself.  Take classes, study abroad, do anything that you have a passion for! Even take one year off! 

Some colleges/universities even recommend their admitted students take one year off to find themselves. While some kids have a specific timeline that they would like to stick to, others will use that time to figure out what they want to do in life. 

Obviously this will be alarming to your parents. It might cause them to think that you are not serious about your college education. However, they need to understand that you might need this time to discover yourself without parental control. 

 My personal experience: When I was applying for colleges in my fall semester of high school, I already knew what I wanted to major in. I figured out what I wanted to do in life in junior year of high school. I wanted to major in marketing and maybe even communications. My parents wanted me to major in nursing. I understood their concern of the job market and how easily it is to get a job out of college as a nurse. However, I knew that if I majored in nursing...I would not be happy. I didn't care about the money or the schedules that came with being a nurse. I knew that I would be miserable and angry at my parents, if I went down the route that they wanted me to go on.  

I am a very opinionated and blunt person, in general. When I told my parents of what I wanted to major in...there were very loud disagreements. My parents were not comfortable with my choice but I did not back down. I knew that nursing was just not for me and they just had to understand that I would not do something if it did not make me happy. So after numerous conversations, my parents finally allowed me to pursue marketing. 

What needs to be taken from my experience is do not pursue something that does not make you happy. Your future should not be based on how much money you make or the flexibility that it might offer you. It should be based on what you want to be in life and how that will make you happy. We all heard the quote, "Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.". 

That quote is true. If you work with what you love, it will fuel your creativity and your passion. You won't feel trapped or drained. I hold that quote very high. Working as anything other than what I would like to do, will make me more depressed and frustrated. 

Despite what you parents might either have in mind for you or what they expect of you...at the the end of the day, you are the one who is making the decision. You are the one who is going to dedicate your time and passion to a certain thing. It might as well be something that you love .

Lillian